The death of a mother (as an event of the order of the outside world) is at the forefront of these considerations. As guides we take those who after their lost leaved the traces in the form of a journal, poems, or texts. The loss they suffered was demanding an action - recognized by us as a process of grievance. Starting from the Freudian definition of mourning, we are guided somehow outside of it. We are wondering what we are writing when we use the word mourning and if it is our right to define its traits? The complaint itself (as a response to the experienced lack) is written in four acts: her silence (the mourner is alone and in vain to listen to the beloved voice), speaking without her (pointing to the silence of the orphaned, recognized by us as: uttering the lack, complaint, union with these who no longer exists, or no desire to speak); talking to oneself (recognising by the writer his or her own emotional states and processes, knowing what is going on, which as such becomes a painful lesson, a source of intimate but not wanted knowledge). The last is an attempt to answer why writing experience has become important. The field of our reflections is what is unique(eine Ausnahme). Their method- exploration of the existence (existentielle Aufklärung), that we are.